“I am a queen crowned in my curls”
Two years ago that is when I decided to go natural with my hair. I remember thinking, how much I wanted curls so bad, I was really tired of my straight, thin, relaxed and same-shoulder-length type hair. I was blessed to have hair that grew quite quickly but there was one problem – I had no idea how to take care of my hair properly. Yes, my hair grew but I experienced much damage from the heat (constantly blow drying and straightening my hair) and chemicals from relaxing my hair. I remember growing up thinking that relaxed hair was the only way to have good hair.
This journey of going natural has really taught me a lot about myself. One thing I knew is that it has taught me self-acceptance and self-love, by being my authentic self. This has been one of the most difficult journeys I have ever embarked on. It tested me in so many ways, which helped me to learn more about myself.
During the first 3 months of my natural hair journey, I remember seeing no change and I really felt like giving up. I’ve had bad hair days and I have had good hair days. I have been through it all – lost my edges, I experienced crazy dandruff, had ugly hair days, the “TWA” ( Teenie weenie afro – the awkward stage of my hair) and at times, I had no idea what I was doing and if what I was doing was even worth it. I really want to applaud my boyfriend for sticking by me, through all of that mess and through my awkward hair and ugly hair stages. In the beginning, I really was shy to show him my hair but I had no choice. How can I be in a relationship with someone, if I cannot show that person my truest form and the most vulnerable part of myself? And through it all, he stuck by me (and still is by me) and helped me to love myself more, which helped me to persevere. He truly is a keeper!
I wanted to heal my fractured relationship with myself. I had to make that conscious decision to actually take care of my hair which led to taking care of myself and loving myself more. I slowly started to see the beauty in my hair and its curls and how it portrays my authentic and natural self. This is not some kind of trend, but a movement. Natural hair will always be beautiful no matter how short and no matter the curl pattern ( by the way I’m still trying to figure out my definite curl pattern – all I know is that my hair is a mixture of 4C and a little bit of 4B). I am still growing my hair and my goal is to have long, full and healthy natural hair. Not everyone wants natural hair and that is still okay because there is no set standard for defining your beauty.
In the beginning, I struggled with creating and maintaining a wash hair day regimen/routine but now its safe to say I finally got the hang of it. This is how I prep for my wash hair days – I start off by doing a hot oil treatment (also known as pre-poo) (that’s why you can see my Tropic Isle Living Lavender Jamaican black castor oil in the picture as well), then I shampoo, condition and finally I deep condition with either a homemade hair mask or a mask from the store. I always use an old t-shirt ( a towel steals away moisture needed for your hair) to dry my hair and let my hair air dry until I can apply the LOC or LCO method and finally a silky bonnet before bed.
When I first went natural two years ago, there were hardly any natural hair products for women of colour, now it’s almost a dream to see such products like Carol’s Daughter, Cantu Shea Butter, Shea Moisture, and L’Oreal Paris Elvive products for natural/ afro hair to name a few here in South Africa.
Those who are close to me know that I am obsessed with natural hair care products and skincare products. I have decided to review my latest hair care products in my natural hair collection – the L’Oreal Paris Elvive extraordinary oil curl nourishment range. After seeing the launch of this product all over social media, I knew as a naturalista that I had to try this product, and as a Durban-born Zulu girl, I was so proud to see Nomzamo Mbatha as the L’Oreal Paris Hair Advocate, another reason to try this product.
After using all three products:
- LO’real Paris Elvive extraordinary oil curl nourishment low shampoo
- LO’real Paris Elvive extraordinary oil curl nourishment conditioner
- LO’real Paris Elvive extraordinary oil curl nourishment masque
My curls created such highly textured definition, my scalp felt so clean and hydrated and my hair felt moisturized and super soft. I would really recommend this product and the smell is amazing. It almost felt like my hair was thanking me for the nourishment and that my hair follicles were dancing whilst using this product.
You can find these products at your nearest Clicks and Dischem stores in South Africa.
How does your relationship with your own natural hair play a role in your self-love journey? Does it influence your self-love journey or not?
I would love to hear your feedback!
L’OReal Paris Elvive Extraordinary Oil Range